我們從小就在學習規則。在飯桌上，大人說話的時候，小孩不該插嘴；讀什麼科目、從事什麼職業、將來跟什麼樣的人在一起，似乎早已有人替你想好了。到頭來，你的夢想，也成了家族顏面的延伸。 「聽話」成了一種語言。 「沉默」則是我們最熟悉、最流利的方言。 即使後來那些規則逐漸鬆動，它們依然在內心迴盪。被允許發聲，不等於擁有自己的聲音；能夠開口說話，和真正能夠說出自己的想法，從來都不是同一回事。 那麼，我們該如何重新學會信任自己的聲音？ We grew up learning the rules. At the dinner table, the adults talked and the children shouldn’t interrupt. Which subject you'd study, which career, which person you'd end up with ,someone had already thought it through for you. Your dream was, in the end, the family's face. Obedient became a language. Silence was the dialect we spoke most fluently. Even when the rules later loosened, they kept echoing inside. Permission isn't the same as a voice. Being allowed to speak, and actually being able to ,those were never the same thing.How do we learn to trust our own voice again?